“I’M A VIRGIN AT 26” – Therapy Gecko

45 thoughts on ““I’M A VIRGIN AT 26” – Therapy Gecko”

1. 5:27 Internal-External Solution, temporary fix, unsustainable.
   7:33 “The only sustainable solution is to walk the long road of building internal confidence.”
   9:17 “I do the best I can with however limited energy I have…”

2. I just want to shake the first caller and tell him he is a cool guy. A nice guy

3. This is a nerd giving advice to another nerd lol

4. Everyone s a virgin here

5. I’m so sorry, I’m like 1 minute in and all I can think is “it’s not easy being green”

6. Man I as soon as I heard him say that she only gives him attention because he gives her money. Fuck them man don’t give them a nickel. Better yourself, focus on you and they will show up.

7. I wish I was still a virgin.

8. Just be friendly and you’ll find someone 👍

9. In many states getting married basically means a woman loses all rights. Especially if he convinces her to get shared bank accounts

10. Fer sher

11. 25 yo virgin here cant speak to woman its sad

12. The idea of giving money to a woman online that you will never meet is just unfathomable to me and frankly pathetic. Like bros, you could at least use that money to be with a prostitute. To some people seeing a prostitute is sad, but at least you actually get to be naked with a girl. Hell even going to a strip club makes sense.
    OnlyFans seeks to exploit the loneliness of weak men with sex/porn addictions and isolated lifestyles and put the money in the pockets of these vain narcissitic 'influencers.' The pursuit is lucrative though, so its seen as empowering to women.

13. I was a virgin at 26, 32 now. Had over a dozen hookers all through my late 20s. Still single, never had a real gf. But i dont have that insecurity about being a virgin anymore. Im not saying this is the solution, as the obsession about being a virgin turned out not to be the main issue. Im still alone and do not date women. But as long as you use protection, seeing a hooker can be good therapy. Its called the worlds oldest profession for a reason. Incel-type characters have existed since ancient civilization.

14. I relate to the first caller a lot

15. As someone who's almost 26 and had had sex more times I can count with more partners I can count I honestly respect the first caller and think that honestly it's just more special of a first time he's going to hopefully have. Or at least the person who takes him through that journey will be someone meaningful instead of an awkward hormone fueled teenage trainwreck. It doesn't define who anyone is as a person at all.

16. I would argue that losing your virginity would definitely sustainably change your life.
    You can quite possibly extend the initial confidence boost into other areas of your life and form better habits to reinforce results

17. People saying sex doesn’t matter are lying. The insecurity isn’t about the act itself it’s about being unlovable and that is an inherently external thing. Once I lost my V card it helped a lot and a lot of the insecurities have been cured

18. Im also a 26 yo virgin. Grew up obese. Lost 130 pounds in the past few years. Never had a girlfriend and find it very difficult to spark conversations or exhibit any confidence. I still hate my body even after losing all the weight. Loose skin, stretch marks and basically no muscle definition. I feel so pathetic and hopeless. Everything reminds me that I am alone. A couple holding hands in the mall, an instagram post of a beautiful woman, hearing my roommate talk about girls he's talking to, romantic movies and TV shows, etc. I'm so hyperfixated on being alone. I crave deep connection and intimacy so bad it hurts. I have 5 dating apps and can't make anything happen on them. This just reinforces my belief that I am ugly and undesirable. On top of all this, I have no college degree, no job, no experience, overdue credit card payments. I'm also a creative person and I decided back in high school that I have to pursue my dreams rather than give any time to school or a day job. But I'm losing hope at this point. And the truth is, I never even put in half as much effort as I could have to further this dream. So… I'm fucking stuck. I just want to go back in time and tell my young self to put the fucking cookies and soda down and lift some weights. Tell my old self to just take chances and be more outgoing. And maybe stay in college too idk… Anyways yeah… shit's tough man. Only thing I'm pretty sure of is that I'm not gonna kill myself. I think about dying all the time. About disappearing and how peaceful that would be. How blissful nonexperience would be… But I realize that these are the things my (possibly genetically) depressed brain tells me. And I don't have to listen to it. But all of my self loathing feels so justified.

19. 1st caller needs to get active and lose weight. Go walking, go jogging, go biking. Do something. You will feel more confident and more likely to attract women and you'll feel better about yourself

20. your a genius.
    keep up the love spreadin

21. “Ya! I dont want my balls punched.

22. I'm 26 n virgin barely dated

23. Shouts out to the caller from Baltimore!

24. 26, I feel pathetic. I'm 33, never had sex. Probably never will at this rate.

25. First guy seems nice, just needs to stay away from e-scamming e-girl-k-popper.

26. I’ll be honest, I haven’t watched the video yet, but if the 26yo virgin managed to focus on himself academically as a result, that’s a big W, I’m 24 years old now and because I was so hyper focused on other people when I was younger saying I’m not in a good position now feels like an understatement, this might not make much sense to anyone but me, but I do take full responsibility for the position I find myself in, but most of my biggest issues stem from the fact I focused on others before myself. That said, if homeboy is a 26yo virgin who isn’t where he maybe should be because he was hyper focused on others but with no success, than with all due respect that’s a big L

27. im 35 and a virgin so what?

28. To Steve, I was there man. I fell head over heels for this girl in High School and continued to be in your situation for the following 4 years. She was the first girl to look my way and that was enough I guess. Unfortunately I didn't pull myself away all the chances I could, It took her moving 100s of miles away for me to be able to stop and reevaluate. But it sounds like you are already coming to terms with the reality of this relationship. You need to find something you can really get into and work to progress. Me personally I fell in love with the gym and I really enjoy working on improving my form and stacking on more weights. You also gotta start sitting down and reflecting on your own feelings rather than those of others. I was at the point where I was genuinely depressed because she was…that's fucked up. You come first ALWAYS. Good Luck out there man, I believe in you.

29. Understandable with the 26 year old virgin guy. I am 25 (going to be 26 in a couple months) and a virgin as well. But honestly, I don't think it's a big deal. Society puts too much stigma into when a person should lose their virginity.

30. what time does gecko stream converted to Australian gold coast time?? cheers

31. Go on Steve, you've got it pal

32. All the best for the first caller, hope this talk helped him, Lyle was great as always.

    I think a lot of these problems come from a weird combination of having a low self-esteem but at the same time unconsciously perceiving yourself as smarter than everyone else. You start to isolate yourself with thoughts about what other people would think or act if you said or did something (as if you were some sort of mind-reading genius) or developing strong prejudices about people you barely know anything about, then you start believing in those tales you tell yourself so hard that you lose your will to try and go out there. Stop trying to "predict" the actions and thoughts of others, just try to act out of good will.

33. Just buy a hooker bro so worth it 👌

34. There's a serious case of camel toes in the back ground🤣🤣🤣

35. I'm a virgin at 37

36. Bro you should never ever be buying a girl anything if she isn’t on a date with you or dating you and the only thing to pay for on a date is literally just pay for food or fare/movie tickets. Dudes literally playing himself. I hope you become more confident brother start lifting. Don’t worry about social interaction it really doesn’t matter that much just talk let it fall out if you say something dumb just smile and laugh. It’s not as hard as you make it out in your mind. And if you have any friends that are successful with women regularly ask if they can help you just tag along watch learn soak it all in you’ll get there bro! And lastly you have to make moves to get what you want if you sit and talk and never press further with a romantic interest nothing will happen.

37. Lol. the guy who's girl wants to punch him in the balls! I love how honest and weird this show is!

38. thumbs up if you would let that dudes girlfriend punch you in the balls

39. To the punching balls A lot of people with trauma and issues expresses things in a certain way .. I feel like she’s deserving to state her side, but it is definitely aggressive and something she can work on.

40. to the first caller – i 100% feel your fears and insecurities. i didn't lose my virginity til my late 20's as well and i had the same insecurities and fears. fear of it coming up in conversation, fear of even if i did have sex she would publicly shame me for how new i was, and any other scenario my brain could manifest. it caused me to go thru the entirety of high school closed off and guarded to relationships. anxiety was also a MASSIVE factor for me. i told myself i really wanted my first time to be "special" and for it to have meaning but i know deep down it was my insecurities projecting an excuse to be able to protect myself from any fears i had.

    i think at that point its our brain (and society) trying to convince us that sex = deep connection and that's the only way but really we are just longing for a relationship to feel loved and validated, sex is just a byproduct of that but one that has been put on a pedestal that signifies true love when in reality it is just a primal instinct. the real true love comes from that bond you form, the connection you have. we worry about sex because that's what society has conditioned us to worry about it. once you get out of the sex = true love mindset you can truly explore all avenues.

41. I hope this man knows there’s women out there who would probably sleep with him if he just asked and said that story, he has to put himself out there.

42. Lyle – you are so good at this 💖

43. The kind of personality trait that would motivate someone to want to punch their boyfriend in the balls for fun is… concerning.

44. The great questions you come up with, I love it so much. Makes ME think.

45. Shout out to Steve, sending my love and best wishes, brother.

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